Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Divorce is not an option



It appears to be the kiss of death to come out publicly with the statement “Divorce is not an option”

I tell Pat all the time that “When we get a divorce I will …..” So I guess we are safe.

A favorite line in a movie is also often quoted in our house, “ I have been saving this money for a DI vorce if ever I find me a husband”.

It is a wonderful life indeed when you are happily married.

Tuesday, March 27, 2012

A Real Relationship Expert


I just want to link to this story about Jennifer Lopez dating (marrying?) someone.

And I want to link to it because the author interviews a “Relationship Expert” - Rachel A Sussman.

And what are Ms. Sussman's credentials for being a “Relationship Expert”?
She's the author of a book called “The Breakup Bible”.


Now that's expertise in relationships.  

Monday, March 26, 2012

Major/Minor


People love the expression “All I ever needed to learn I learned in Kindergarten”. Frankly, I can't remember a darn thing I learned in Kindergarten. But all I ever needed to learn about marriage I learned from watching my parents my whole life. They were married young (young by our standards today –21 and 25). They had a bunch of kids and they worked hard. It was the American Dream. I would say that it worked well. I don't have any strong recollections of my parents fighting or yelling. So it made me wonder how did they do that?

At a family wedding the DJ decided to play the game where all the married couples get on the dance floor. He plays a song then asks all the couples who have been married 5 years or less to sit. Followed by 10 years etc. Until you boil it down to the couple who had been married the longest left. At this wedding it was my parents, 45 years. So the DJ asked my folks to give the newlyweds some advice on what makes marriage work.

Without hesitation my mother grabbed the microphone and said, “We decided early on that I would make all the Minor decisions and he would make all the Major ones”.
The DJ quickly retrieved the microphone because he didn't like the subservient nature of the comment. Except my little mother, who can move like the wind when she wants, grabbed the microphone back and finished her line, “And so far nothing Major has come up.”

Laughter all around. And you see that is when I realized one of my parents secrets to a good long lasting marriage. Laughter. My Mom thought my Dad was funny (he was) and he thought she was.
So I don't know if they yelled at each other in private where we kids couldn't hear but I do know they laughed together and so did we.

Friday, March 23, 2012

A Pat and Mary we'll look up to

This is not us.

It's another Pat and Mary. A previous Pat and Mary. A great Pat and Mary

A couple in their eighties who had been married for 58 years were found dead in their hot tub.Pat Marino, 85, and Mary Marino, 80, were discovered by a neighbour in their winter home after their family became worried that they had not heard from them.
The article goes on to interview one of their sons-in-law, who has this to say:

'There were no better parents to their three daughters, there were no better grandparents to the five grandchildren that they had, and there were no better in-laws to their three sons-in-law.'
And that's from a son-in-law.

So here's a couple that stayed together for 58 years, had three children, five grandkids, and went out together... in a hot tub. That's a Pat and Mary.

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2049798/Elderly-couple-married-60-years-dead-hot-tub.html#ixzz1pxoroDrR